Peace at any cost what does it mean? To me it means being a Lemming, following and or agreeing to another just to avoid conflict. The cost is ignoring yourself, what you feel, think or believe. My Grandma lived by it. I watched time and time again what it did to her. Her belief in peace at any costs came back to haunt her through her stomach ailments. My Grandma passed away and the lessons I have learned from her are invaluable.
I took on the mantra peace at any costs until my late 20s. Prior to that my life revolved around what others felt I should be doing. I felt like a puppet doing others bidding all to avoid conflict. However I had a tiny spark of my own life flicking through me pushing me to rebel and listen to myself. Since then it has been a learning process for me. The word no is used a lot. I was in competition with a two year old when I first created my boundaries. It really pisses people off because I am changing my relationships to what works best for me. How dare I say “NO” to an activity or a supposed favor for someone.
Ever notice when you say no, the manipulation tactics come into play? When that doesn’t work next comes the guilt. This one is great especially from the mothers. Was there a book given out when I was born of phrases to say, when you feel your child is not acting in accordance to what you want? One of my favorites is “I gave birth to you” or ” I am your Mother how can you say no to me?”
I want everyone out there to know peace at any cost sucks. It is OK to say NO. It is even better when you check into your intuition/gut for responses to any situation you are unsure how to handle.
Do not feel obligated to do something you DON’T want to, because someone close to you feels that you have to conform to their wishes or wants.
Do not let anyone make you feel bad for a decision. They cannot make you feel bad, it is your mind chatter that makes you feel guilty IF you let it.
Not everything we learned as children serves us as adults, if it doesn’t work drop it like a hot potato.
Peace at any cost resides in your body as fear, anger, sadness or hatred. Listen to yourself, be true to who you are.
It takes courage to listen to yourself, especially when you start swimming upstream against what everyone believes you should be doing. Every new day is a learning process. What you did yesterday is in the past. Take what works for you, and use it today.
I want to be heard and accepted for being myself not what others think I should be. Their expectations of what I should be doing no longer effects the direction I am going.
Keep your chin up, your actions speak louder then words. Keep at it.
What do you think, post your comments.
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